Day 25: Bullies Don't Stop Bullies From Bullying
- Kailee Tones
- Apr 4, 2021
- 3 min read
^This little girl took her life a month ago after being told she should kill herself by bullies at her school. She was bullied non-stop about her appearance, her hijab, her educational performance, and her accent. Her family were Syrian Refugees, that moved to Canada to escape what was happening there. However, what 9-year-old Amal experienced, was said to be just as bad or worse.
When I was around her age until I was around 12 I had experienced bullying. Though, not to this degree. I remember coming home from school feeling worthless, and I really didn't want to go to school. However, I also remember keeping it from family for years. I don't exactly remember what I was afraid of. I guess I didn't want anyone overacting, or the opposite, making me feel like I was overreacting. These were my "friends" that bullied me. Some, friends I had since kindergarten. Though, my parents took it right to my school principal.
I remember my principal was trying endlessly to get me to stay at the school, and that they would talk to the bullies and ensure it didn't happen again. Though, I felt like I needed to get away, I also remember not wanting the bullies to get a lashing or get kicked out of school. I don't remember having suicidal thoughts back then though, I just wanted an escape, I feared going to school. Bullying found it's way to follow me through to high school with a new group of "friends". It's something that will always be around, the exact reason is up for personal determination. But, when it ends as it ended for Amal, something must be done.
It was reported that the school board did nothing to protect her. The parents had a language barrier, so they reached out multiple times in person and on phone calls with a translator. Though no teachers or board members reached out to the bullies, or their parents to try and stop this from happening. They didn't see anything happening, so maybe they just decided not to believe it? The school is getting sued by the family after Amal's death. But, no amount of money will bring their daughter back.
It is absolutely insane to me that there are kids committing suicide. A child that has not even lived life yet, ending her life because of rotten kids' hurtful words. But it's not necessarily the bullies fault. I think that bullies route from parental bullies. The only other way would be bullies, inflicting their friends to join their bully alliance. I mean, even though I was bullied when I was young, these so called friends that bullied me, made me a little mean too. They say that you are who your friends are, or something like that. Basically, their personality traits can carry over to you in time, you become a copy of them. Watching them bully others before they bullied me, made me a sort of bully too. I made fun of kids too, and they would laugh, which would fuel the meanness to grow inside of me. Then when I was finally free from them, I realized what I had done. I reached out to a bunch of the kids I made stupid comments to and apologized. Then I set out to be a much better person. I believe I accomplished that, though there is always room for growth.
Whomever or whatever makes people into bullies, it needs to be controlled from within. Which is harder when you are young and easily influenced by others opinions. Though, whatever you may be going through, it doesn't mean you should ever pick on others, whatever the reason may be. And never fight fire with fire.
Also remember that you can always start over, suicide is never the answer. Talk to someone if you have suicidal thoughts. Or reach out to a helpline. No matter what you're going through, just know that there is someone who loves you. And your life is worth it, and things will look up, I promise. We go through tough times as humans, but things will always get better, I trust in that.
Thanks for reading humans.
DO GOOD.
BEE WELL.
HAVE HOPE.
x
Kailee
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